Wednesday, September 14, 2011

Labels

I've been sitting on an application for a local preschool, I have it half filled out (and I need to finish it before tomorrow *gulp*).

One section asks for you to list words that you feel describe your child, I listed:

  • Strong willed
  • Independent
  • Boisterous
  • Outgoing
  • Enthusiastic
Now maybe it's a little mellow dramatic of me, but my heart broke a little as I wrote down "strong willed" and "boisterous".  By no means did I mean them in a negative context - TT is strong willed and he is boisterous - but to see those words written so starkly on that piece of paper, it killed me (again, I.am.being.melodramatic. I very obviously am alive & kicking) that I was so readily labeling him.

Those words are a source of pride for me - though I'm sure many of you are shaking your heads at my naivety - I hope when he reaches his teenage years that he maintains that steadfast strong willedness, so that when other children are flocking like sheep he is either their badass leader (because for realz, if my child is going to be a hellion out causing a ruckus I feel [now... maybe later I will change my mind] that I would much rather they choose to do so because it is what they want to do and not because they are a mindless lemming) or he is so absolutely fine with marching to the beat of his own drum that he doesn't need the approval of his peers  While there are many afternoons where I could bang my head to quiet the voices (of TT & C-McC) that is a part of what makes them who they are...

I had a lovely afternoon chatting with a new (good?) friend of mine... and I brought up this "issue" (if it could even be considered an issue).  I wonder that there may be a negative connotation associated with these words... that they will be read and TT will be labeled "a problem". This progressed into a full-on discussion on parenting and our roles... and well, all that to say I had a lovely afternoon and I'm proud to say that TT is indeed strong willed and boisterous!

What words would you use to describe your child? 
What do those words (in regards to your child) mean to you?
Are you concerned that there may be a negative connotation associated with that word?

Oh and Ps:  Thank you for all the work advice (and for the love), work has been good.  I didn't cry, not at all (the night before... yes, but not the day of).  Things have gone well, C-McC seems to be adapting and so do I!  I miss my boys very much but I am enjoying contact with adults...

4 comments:

  1. I am not sure how I would describe Eli yet... but...

    as a teacher those "Strong willed, Independent, Boisterous, Outgoing and Enthusiastic" boys drive me bananas in the classroom.... BUT.... looking back, those boys have been my a.b.s.o.l.u.t.e FAVOURITE students of all time. (and I'm not just saying that)

    :)

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  2. New, good ; ) friends are nice to have. I am sure this friend enjoyed your company as much as you did hers.

    I second Lindsay! Some of my favourite kids EVER, when I worked with them, were just as you would describe your wee one. They took up a lot of energy, sometimes more than they expended but they had character.

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  3. Lily is totally strong willed as well.

    I always say she has the power to rule the world someday, we as her parents just have to help her learn to harness her powers for good instead of evil ;) Its a lot of pressure, but such a worthwhile responsibility :)

    Nate's fine, and anybody who judges him because he doesn't fit the mold that society tells us our children should fit (ie be seen, not heard, mindless obeying etc) - well, do their opinions really matter then??

    PS. The preschool has been totally cool with my fiesty Lilz so far ;)

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  4. Character - I like that :) He definitely has his fair share of *character*

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