Alternative parent (which honestly, I don't even think I am... I'm just a mama who loves her boys and tries to parent in a way that works for me) equals always having to explain why.
Why do I baby wear? Don't I know that it is going to spoil/coddle them? How will they walk? I'm allowing my child to manipulate me, must.nip.that.in.the.bud.
Why do I breastfeed? How will anyone else feed baby? Does a 20mos old really need to breastfeed? I am creating a mama's boy.
Now that we're expecting #3 and I'm contemplating a rather non-traditional birth route... I'm hearing a lot of this: A homebirth? Are you crazy? You are crazy! What if something happens, you'll never forgive yourself! That's what hospitals are for... (honestly, I could go on and on about this one)
I may not do everything mainstream, but just because I march to the beat of a different drum... doesn't mean I do so without thought. Yes, I have been known to act instinctively (I call it intuitive parenting)... but most of my alternative parenting ideas I've put a lot of thought into.
So please, when someone you know/love does things a little differently... before jumping all over them and calling them names, insulting their intelligence and questioning their parenting. Think. Think that maybe, just maybe, they've considered the pros & cons and they're doing what they think is best for their family.