Wednesday, June 6, 2012

A {ProChoice} Mama

I would say that I'm a fairly open book.

I tend to not hide my opinions or feelings (actually, with regards to feelings, I don't think I could hide them if I tried... it's just not in my nature).

Recently, I was involved in a discussion that evolved into me sharing my ProChoice stance.

Given that I am the mother of two boys (with a child on the way), I think I may have surprised some.

Allow me a moment to share what being ProChoice means to me (and contrary to a common misconception, ProChoice does not equal ProAbortion... )

ProChoice, means my belief in the right to choose for the individual.

I can 1,000,000% tell you that the thought never flitted across my mind that I should not continue on with any of my pregnancies.  It never occurred to me.  Not once,  I cannot even fathom a life without my wild, beautiful, fabulously spirited boy's (and a mystery babe on the way).

However, I firmly believe that I do not have the right to force another woman to carry an unborn child in her womb (for approximately 40 weeks).

In an ideal world, unwanted pregnancies would never occur.  The world that we live in is not ideal and they do occur.

In an ideal world, proper protection would be used all.the.time and it would be 100%.   With the world that we live in, this is simply not the case. 

And honestly, like honestly truly, I would much rather time and money being spent on raising breastfeeding rates than funneling more money into abstinence programs.

I, honestly wish, there was more focus on what to do with the babe's once they are here than on forcing a woman to have a child that she does not wish to have (and shaming her in the process, because obviously she impregnated herself).

Letter Against Woodworths Anti-Choice <<<  This post was initially prompted by being asked to sign a petition to change the definition of personhood (actually I believe their words were "being human").  I asked if this would then in turn be used to make abortion illegal, because I cannot support something that takes away a woman's right to choose.


  1. THIS IS EXACTLY HOW I FEEL ABOUT THIS! (sorry for the caps, but I feel passionately about this topic). I have had this discussion on mommy groups so many times, that Pro-Choice does NOT equal Pro-Abortion! It's not a choice I could ever, ever, ever make for myself, but that doesn't give me the right (or the government or the church for that matter!) to make the choice for any other woman. I can only imagine how difficult that decision would be for any woman to make. I especially think that the government has no place in that type of decision.

  2. Your blog needs a LIKE button! :)

  3. I agree with you, with a few more supporting arguments as well! I am a Primary school teacher and I can tell you from firsthand experience that some women are seriously, SERIOUSLY not fit to be parents! It astonishes me sometimes. It is not because they are "working" or anything like that (which I support) but because for some reason their personal interests and "life" (in quotes!) come BEFORE their children and clearly they were not ready to have these children at this point in their lives. I am not being judgmental, I give everyone a chance (always!) but when I see this happen I can see right away which children will be supported throughout their lives and which won't and I find it really, extremely unfair.

  4. Thanks Gals!

    I hate that the adopt option is thrown about as the absolute resolution for unplanned pregnancies (well that and abstinence... which we can see works so freaking well).

    When a women makes the comment that someone finding themself with an unplanned pregnancy should adopt the unborn child, I roll my eyes (because it isn't always that easy).

    When a man makes the same comment, I find myself absolutely livid. How dare someone who will never, ever be able to understand what pregnancy is like (what it is like to carry a child in your womb... what it is like to be so sick that you have to be hooked up to IV fluids... what it is like to feel like you have a freaking bowling ball hanging from your pelvis), how dare they tell me what to do with my body.

    And that to me is the crux of the issue - how dare someone feel that they know my body better than I know it and therefore make decisions for me and my body without my input or consent.